Today I’m featuring a special guest post by my good friend Tanya. I’ve known her for almost as long as we’ve lived in this little town, and she and her husband have been a constant source of encouragement and support to me and the rest of my family too. I’m honoured to share this with you on her behalf.
It was a cold winter night, actually just last week. My husband Andrew and I sat down to watch A Christmas Carol with Jim Carrey. This relaxation was a great reprieve as my husband and I have suffered much loss in the last few weeks. Dealing with pain and loss makes you see life more clearly. We struggle just like you with the why.
Why has this happened and why has this happened again?
As I sat there feeling sensitive and vulnerable I contemplated Scrooge’s plight.
He grew up alone in a boarding house deserted by his father, always alone at Christmas. He had a younger sister who he adored who dies in child birth. Scrooge does get engaged but his fiance leaves him when she feels his love for money is greater than the love he has for her.
Scrooge has pain in his life, he has tragedy. We all have pain, we all have tragedy. We all have a story to tell. One day maybe I will tell you mine and you can tell me yours.
We all know Scrooge’s story, “Bah Humbug”. I love how in all these portrayals of this man’s story not once does anyone say “Oh poor Scrooge, you had a hard life. No wonder you became a “covetous old sinner” “. “Oh poor Tanya, you have had a hard life.No wonder you are becoming bitter and resentful.”
No one has ever said those words to Scrooge and no one has ever said those words to me.
We know Scrooge’s story. He is visited by 4 spirits. These 4 experiences bring him fear and pain, an opportunity to contemplate his life.
James 1:2-4 – Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
Like I said earlier, dealing with pain and loss makes you see more clearly. God gives us many opportunities in our life to see more clearly.
I don’t want to be bitter and resentful like Scrooge. I want to wake up from my trials and embrace all God has for us. Scrooge became a better man, he kept Christmas well, he saw his trials as a learning experience and a chance to become someone better.
I will persevere through the trials of my life.
You see, we have just suffered greatly with our 10th miscarriage and my husband losing his job for the second time this year.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.
Trust in the LORD, don’t let your pain and suffering be for nothing, learn from your suffering, grow and give loving kindness.
A few Quotes from Charles Dickens “A Christmas Carol”:
“Men’s courses will foreshadow certain ends, to which, if persevered in, they must lead,” said Scrooge. “But if the courses be departed from, the ends will change. Say it is thus with what you show me!”
“I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year. I will live in the Past, the Present, and the Future. The Spirits of all Three shall strive within me. I will not shut out the lessons that they teach. Oh, tell me I may sponge away the writing on this stone!”