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What I Learned From Scrooge

Today I’m featuring a special guest post by my good friend Tanya.  I’ve known her for almost as long as we’ve lived in this little town, and she and her husband have been a constant source of encouragement and support to me and the rest of my family too.  I’m honoured to share this with you on her behalf.

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It was a cold winter night, actually just last week. My husband Andrew and I sat down to watch A Christmas Carol with Jim Carrey. This relaxation was a great reprieve as my husband and I have suffered much loss in the last few weeks. Dealing with pain and loss makes you see life more clearly. We struggle just like you with the why.

 

Why has this happened and why has this happened again?

 

As I sat there feeling sensitive and vulnerable I contemplated Scrooge’s plight.

 

He grew up alone in a boarding house deserted by his father, always alone at Christmas. He had a younger sister who he adored who dies in child birth. Scrooge does get engaged but his fiance leaves him when she feels his love for money is greater than the love he has for her.

 

Scrooge has pain in his life, he has tragedy. We all have pain, we all have tragedy. We all have a story to tell. One day maybe I will tell you mine and you can tell me yours.

 

We all know Scrooge’s story, “Bah Humbug”. I love how in all these portrayals of this man’s story not once does anyone say “Oh poor Scrooge, you had a hard life. No wonder you became a “covetous old sinner” “. “Oh poor Tanya, you have had a hard life.No wonder you are becoming bitter and resentful.”

 

No one has ever said those words to Scrooge and no one has ever said those words to me.

 

We know Scrooge’s story. He is visited by 4 spirits. These 4 experiences bring him fear and pain, an opportunity to contemplate his life.

 

James 1:2-4 – Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

 

Like I said earlier, dealing with pain and loss makes you see more clearly. God gives us many opportunities in our life to see more clearly.

 

I don’t want to be bitter and resentful like Scrooge. I want to wake up from my trials and embrace all God has for us. Scrooge became a better man, he kept Christmas well, he saw his trials as a learning experience and a chance to become someone better.

 

I will persevere through the trials of my life.

 

You see, we have just suffered greatly with our 10th miscarriage and my husband losing his job for the second time this year.

 

Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.

 

Trust in the LORD, don’t let your pain and suffering be for nothing, learn from your suffering, grow and give loving kindness.

 

What I Learned From Scrooge

A few Quotes from Charles Dickens “A Christmas Carol”:

 

“Men’s courses will foreshadow certain ends, to which, if persevered in, they must lead,” said Scrooge. “But if the courses be departed from, the ends will change. Say it is thus with what you show me!”

 

“I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year. I will live in the Past, the Present, and the Future. The Spirits of all Three shall strive within me. I will not shut out the lessons that they teach. Oh, tell me I may sponge away the writing on this stone!”

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Megan is a WAHM to 3 (and then some) kids, who spends the majority of her time working as an Administrative Assistant, blogging and washing dishes. She loves to write about her adventures in parenting, running a home daycare, adoption and whatever else strikes her fancy!

24 Comments

  1. Stefany

    It is so easy to get caught up in the negative when it feels like life is pulling you down. It is great to have faith to fall back on… as it should be front and center anyway.

  2. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I am so sorry about your loss and to hear that your husband lost his job again.

  3. Tiffany Washko

    These are great quotes

  4. Jennifer Corter

    Really great post. Just beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

  5. Sarah

    Thank you for sharing. I too have had a lot of bumps in my road, despite the shiny window view I share with others. I love this take on Scrooges attitude. My bumps have taken me away from religion but not from kindness; the point is not lost on me. I wish you peace in your heart at this sometimes cruel time of year Tanya.

    • Tanya Robertson

      Sarah, thank you for your message. I do not believe I am religious. I need the hope and the promises I find in the gift of Christmas. Psalm 34:7-8 The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear Him, and He delivers them. Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in Him. I believe that we/I have bumps because sin entered the world. 1 Peter 5:8 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Thank you for letting me share with you. I hope your time home with your kids for Christmas is beautiful and full of loving memories.

  6. mrenkema79

    Such a neat perspective! Thanks for sharing!

  7. maggiesblog2

    Thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope things look up for you!

  8. Sarh S

    Lots of bumps in the road here lately too.

    • Tanya Robertson

      We have hope Sarh. Joy comes in the morning. Psalm 30:5 For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.

  9. Dhemz

    Life has its ups and downs…it will get better!

  10. Jillian Fisher

    I hope things get better soon. Lots of baby dust.

  11. Abi Craig

    Thank you for sharing your Godward spirit of perseverance. May His grace continue to be sufficient for whatever His plans for your family are.

  12. Liz Mays

    It really can be a battle sometimes to keep spirits up and not let it you alive. Fortunately it always cycles back to better.

  13. Mystarlight

    Life can always get better. It is not so easy to see when you are going through something.hard but when you do get through it we do see life in a much different and better way.

  14. Rebekah

    What a beautiful testimony! I can’t imagine what you are going through right now, but I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your heart with us.

  15. Carissa

    Very good perspective <3

  16. Tesha Fritz

    I never thought about Scrooge this way. I love the way you weaved in the quotes and verses.

  17. Eliz@MirthandMotivation

    Dear Tanya,
    Just as you hold everyone who visits your blog up in prayer, I hold you up in prayer for God’s compassionate love and divine intervention. I’m so sorry to read about your personal loss and your hubby’s job loss, and my heart and healing love go out to both of you. In times of loss, we do ask why because it hurts and we feel denied. But, know that God’s delay is not denial for all comes together in God’s time and for our growth and blessing.
    If God is for us, who can be against us? Stay strong and faithful dear one. You are not alone: “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9
    Stay blessed,
    Elizabeth

  18. Carly Anderson (@lipglosscrayons)

    You definitely can learn a lot from Scrooge. I agree completely – you have to learn from your trials. God doesn’t give you dark times in your life for nothing.

  19. optimistic_mama (@optimistic_mama)

    I am so sorry for what you are going through. I’m glad that you can take a few lessons from Scrooge, though.

  20. Tanya Robertson

    Thank you everyone so much! I have never done a BLOG before and was nervous. Your replies have touched my heart and encouraged me. Merry Christmas to you and your loved ones!

  21. Sylvia Rehling

    Too my sister she has my prayers for her hearts desires to come true. Tanya you are my sister and I love you very much. I wish I could take away your pain. I am glad that God is guiding you and holding you close to his heart through everything. He has made you a diamond. you are so special to him and one of a kind. You are perfect in your own way just as we all are. we each bring something special and unique to the world that would be missed if we weren’t here to show it. our trials and joys give us a life well lived. what you have been through will guide you in guiding others. God has used you to help his children in a special way. You are blessed and I pray for more blessing to fall upon you.

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