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The 5 Love Languages of Children

When my oldest was a tiny newborn, probably about 3 weeks old, a wise young friend came to visit.  She was all of 16.  As we gazed at this new little miracle in wonder (well, for me it was a sleep-deprived fuzzy-mindedness kind of wonder), we talked about the boy he would become.

“I wonder what his love language is?”  my friend pondered aloud.

“Hmm,” I replied thoughtfully, “I’m not sure.”  Of course, I knew nothing about love languages at that point, and didn’t even realize that at 3 weeks old, there’s no way to know what a child’s love language will be.

That newborn is 14 now, and I have definitely learned what his Love Language is, as well as the Love Languages of his siblings.

But my knowledge was all based on the original The 5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman.  And then, not too long ago I was excited to receive The 5 Love Languages of Children, by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell.

We all know instinctively that we most feel loved when specific things happen.  For me, hearing that I am appreciated or about something I did that impacted someone positively makes me feel loved.

It’s no surprise then, to learn that my Love Language, or the way love is most readily communicated to me, is with Words of Affirmation, one of the 5 Love Languages.  The other 4 include Physical Touch, Quality Time, Gifts, and Acts of Service.

The 5 Love Languages of Children starts off with defining and explaining each of the Love Languages and how they look in terms of the parent-child relationship, always coming back to the fact that if a child doesn’t feel loved, the relationship that they have with their parents will be less than ideal.  In fact, Campbell and Chapman have also included chapters on how Love Languages affect the areas of discipline and learning.

That’s all well and good, you might be thinking, but how do I discover what my child’s Love Language is in the first place?

You’re in luck, because Chapter 7 is entitled “How to discover your child’s primary love language” and the appendix includes “The Love Language Mystery Game”, a fun way for parents and kids to get to know the child’s Love Language.

This book is a wonderful way to learn more about your child and about how they feel loved, and to also check whether your style of discipline is the most effective.  For example, if your child’s Love Language is Quality Time, and your go-to punishment is a time-out for the child alone in her room, it’s probably not the best possible method for your child.

This book is an amazing tool to get to know your child better, to learn how to better communicate love to him or her, and to strengthen your relationship.


A copy of The 5 Love Languages of Children has been provided courtesy of Moody Publishers and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc.  Available at your favourite bookseller from Moody Publishers.  As usual, all opinions are my own.

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Megan is a WAHM to 3 (and then some) kids, who spends the majority of her time working as an Administrative Assistant, blogging and washing dishes. She loves to write about her adventures in parenting, running a home daycare, adoption and whatever else strikes her fancy!


  1. Masshole Mommy

    That sounds like a great read. I will have to pick up a copy!

  2. Kungphoo

    Interesting.. A child love is unconditional.. (usually) thanks for sharing this info.

  3. Theresa

    Sounds like a book I’d read. Will have to look into this. Thanks for sharing.

  4. Kae James

    Yes ma’am I will have to pick up a copy myself. This looks like a good read.

  5. Danielle

    I love these books. I have the 5 love languages of apology its a really good book tool.

  6. Scott

    Hadn’t heard of this series, but as the father of two girls it looks to be a good read. Will see if our library has a copy.

  7. Rosey

    I didn’t know there were love languages for the kids. I did know about the adult version, my SIL loves it and tells me about it often.

  8. Krista

    I read this book recently and really enjoyed it!

  9. Liz Mays

    I didn’t know there was a children’s version, but I’ve had the original for a really long time. It’s excellent.

  10. Carly Anderson (@lipglosscrayons)

    This sounds like a really interesting book. I will definitely be getting myself a copy!

  11. Elayna Fernandez

    I love this book. I love Gary Chapman. My love language has evolved, so I think it’s great to re-read it as many times as one can.

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