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Reasons Why Moms Should Get Dressed Each Morning

Recently, a school principal’s letter to parents about their clothing choices at morning drop-off, assemblies, Christmas events and Parent Nights has gone viral.  The response has surprised me.  But then again, maybe it isn’t so surprising after all.

I haven’t heard from very many dads that routinely wear pajamas when dropping off their children at school, and I have yet to see one myself wandering the halls at school, but the outcry from moms is overwhelming!  Apparently the right to wear pajamas while dropping kids off at school is one that many women hold close to their hearts.  Not surprisingly, the number of moms with issues with high school dress codes seems to outweigh the number of dads with the same issues too.

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I’m not a fan of wearing pajamas out to run errands, drop kids off, or to do anything, really, other than sleeping or vegging on the couch in the evening or when I’m sick.  But that aside, there are some benefits to getting dressed that I think can apply to any family, regardless of opinions and personal rights.

Getting dressed shows that mom’s self-care is valuable.

Taking care of yourself first is a lesson that all moms learn, one way or another.  Taking the time to shower and dress each morning shows your kids that you value yourself, and that they should too.

Getting dressed teaches societal expectations surrounding dress codes.

You would never show up to work in your pink fluffy slippers, and kids need to learn that every job, social situation, and event has a (sometimes unwritten) dress code.  Staying within the general “rules” of that dress code gives others a good impression of you, which is especially important at job interviews or in any position that requires interaction with clients or the public.

Getting dressed teaches time management.

While it won’t sink in for younger kids, as they age they’ll start to realize that you’re scheduling in time to prepare for the day by getting dressed.  Carving time out of your morning for essentials like getting dressed and basic hygiene is a great way to set an example for your kids in how to manage their own time.

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Getting dressed shows respect for others.

Showing up dressed for the day or event shows that you value their presence too.  You wouldn’t go to a Broadway show in your plaid pajama pants and hubby’s ratty t-shirt.  You’d dress for the occasion as a way of showing respect for the performers and the effort they’ve put into being there.  In the same way, dressing for the day shows respect for the teachers you’re leaving your kids with for the day.

Getting dressed gives you control of your day.

Saying that you don’t have time to get dressed makes you a victim of your circumstances.  You’re too busy to get dressed because you have 2 or 3 kids to care for.  Or you can’t get dressed because you were up late last night with a nursing baby.

Caring for your kids is a wonderful thing, and it’s exactly what your should be doing.  However, when we start to blame our kids for things like not being able to change out of our jammies, we make ourselves victims and give up even more control of our schedule.  Take back control!  Set your alarm (on vibrate, if it’ll wake up your little ones) for 15 minutes before the kids usually wake up.  And get up, get dressed, make yourself a hot drink, and take control of the mood and direction of your day!  And if they wake up earlier than you expected?  Use TV, snacks, special toys, or whatever it takes to give you a few minutes to pull yourself together.  The kids are not in control of your day – you are!

I know many won’t agree with my stance on getting dressed, and that’s okay.  But I would do believe that the benefits of getting dressed each day are huge, and will make a big difference in how your children see you, and how they conduct themselves in the future.

What do you think of the Principal’s letter to the parents?  Do you think it was called for, or did she overstep her bounds?

 

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Megan is a WAHM to 3 (and then some) kids, who spends the majority of her time working as an Administrative Assistant, blogging and washing dishes. She loves to write about her adventures in parenting, running a home daycare, adoption and whatever else strikes her fancy!

20 Comments

  1. Esther | The Cuteness

    I had baby #2 a week ago and I still shower and get dressed every day. It’s so important for me, and makes me feel like a semi-functioning human, even on little to no sleep!
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  2. Alli

    I’ll never forget the day I was home sick from high school and I had to drive my teacher mom to work. I had on my PJ’s and the car broke down on the way. I was humiliated when I had to get out of the car and get a ride back home. That was my first and last time leaving the house without getting properly dressed.
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  3. Jenn

    I totally agree with this list. Even though, I am guilty of not getting dressed once in a while, I am way more productive after getting up, and ready for the day. Even if I don’t leave the house.

  4. Liz Mays

    These are some really good points. I do feel like I don’t get a lot done when I stick with PJs in the morning.
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  5. Jenn @ EngineerMommy

    I definitely have to get dressed each morning. It helps me feel ready to tackle the day and be productive!

  6. Mimi Green

    I totally agree, I’m a Mom of two. I pride myself on my appearance. It doesn’t have to be a suit by any means or make up but no pajamas.
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  7. Valerie

    I think that getting dressed for the day makes me more productive. I always do it!

  8. Jacqui

    YES YES YES!!! I agree on every single point!! Dress for the job you want, right?
    I can’t believe so many moms were in such an uproar. I have never done it, and I have three kids (four if you include the husband), and I’m not bragging. I just strongly believe in everything you JUST said!

  9. coolchillmom

    I am going to share this everywhere! You are right on all accounts. Let’s get dressed every day moms!
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  10. Stephen Parry

    Having a shower and getting dressed in the morning is definitely a priority! Skipping this step can not be good for your health and lifestyle
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  11. ricci

    I am so feeling these tips and even though I’m not a Mom I definitely need to get up and dressed even on the days I don’t work or have anything to do.
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  12. Stacey

    My mom always taught me growing up that you never know who you’ll see when you go out so to always get dressed. It’s never a bad plan!

  13. rika

    I agree with you. I often feel “sad” and lack of energy if i don’t dress nice well

  14. April Decheine

    I pretty much live in my sweats and sweatshirt when I am working, my problem is my hair, I always just throw it up, need to do more with my hair.

  15. Up Run for Life

    I typically wear my pjs places if I know I’m not getting out. I am guilty of wearing them to the store. I had surgery and wearing jeans was uncomfy. So I wore what was comfy. If I wore this attire to drop my kid off, the principal would have to get over it.

    I do agree with you. My pjs are typically tshirts and shorts so it’s nothing too hideous. I do have a few pj bottoms that wear when it’s cold.
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  16. Nicole

    I’m not a huge fan of going out in PJ’s for anything, when I drop my daughter at school it is usually just to turn around and speed into work. That being said, when she was a newborn, there were plenty of overly exhausted, didn’t even have time for a shower, yoga pants type days!

  17. John lopez

    I think it’s really cool if someone can go somewhere and pajamas, I think they’re pretty brave! However, I wouldn’t recommend wearing pajamas all the time.

  18. Wildish Jess

    I can’t say that I agree with all of these points but it definitely helps with time management!

  19. MP Pineda

    I agree with you, mom like me should always take care self first. You had a right point.

  20. Alecia Vaught

    I think it is a very good letter. It articulates in a kind and helpful way the benefits of taking control of your day which simply includes getting dressed. It was a very informative article and I thoroughly enjoyed it. Great job! If people are offended, then that is their own problem and not anyone else’s.

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