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Our Adoption Paperwork Has Lapsed. Now What?

While I’ve spoken to this before, I don’t know if I’ve really spelled out where we’re at in our adoption journey. It’s taken a turn that we didn’t foresee. Actually, it took a few turns …

And, the school buses are cancelled … again. I attempted to make some homemade granola bars, and decided I’d have to tweak the recipe some more.

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Megan is a WAHM to 3 (and then some) kids, who spends the majority of her time working as an Administrative Assistant, blogging and washing dishes. She loves to write about her adventures in parenting, running a home daycare, adoption and whatever else strikes her fancy!

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  1. Lisa

    Hi, I just listened to your blog on adoption paperwork and I can totally relate. We adopted our little guy about 2 years ago after fostering him first. We have 4 adult bio kids and we not intending to adopt but we started fostering our son hours after he was born and soon fell madly in love with him. He was exposed to alcohol and drugs in the womb and has some challenges such as speech delay, anxiety and some sensory issues but otherwise doing well. Even though he was only hours old when we started fostering him and a crown ward at 3 months it still took 19 months to finalize the adoption. Then this past summer we found out he had a baby sister in the system and decided to try and adopt her. CAS and the mother approved and even though our paperwork from our sons adoption was up to date and nothing had changed they put us through all the paperwork excluding pride training, thank the Lord, again. For some unknown reason they put her in another foster home until all the paperwork was complete instead of with us and it actually took 4 1/2 months before they finally placed her with us. It made no sense but you can’t make sense of what cas does. To make a long story short she came to us as a toddler instead of an infant and although she was a sweetheart and very good our son could not seem to adjust to this active child in his space, touching him and following him and he began to regress and become aggressive which is not his nature at all. After two months we decided after many tears and prayers to let her go to another family. In regards to your situation, I’m not sure where you are located but I’m stunned that they said they had no children for you to adopt!! They are constantly talking about how many children there are that need permanent homes so that makes no sense. Children can be placed from outside of your county so why did they not widen the search? It sounds to me like your adoption worker is either new or lazy. They are always saying that they need more foster parents and more adopted parents but they make the process so difficult. I don’t know who is the cause of this, whether the government or each individual Cas department but there needs to be a change because it affects children and discourages people like yourself from continuing the process. With that said I wish you all the best and if you are meant to adopt in the future God will make it work. God Bless!

    • Megan Elford

      I totally agree with that — serious changes need to be made to our current system. Something is out of whack when kids spend years in limbo. I’m not sure what the deal is with our worker, but I do agree that I wish they had done more in terms of letting us know honestly how many children were in need of homes up front. Whether that’s due to too heavy a workload or just slacking, I wish they had been more honest up front!

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