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Before I Was A Mom …

It seems like eons ago, but once upon a time, I had an identity all my own. One that didn’t come with a toddler clinging to my leg or a baby on my hip.


I find it so interesting to hear about the education and jobs that women had before becoming stay-at-home or work-from-home moms. Most of the time, we are the ones to take the hit when it comes to setting aside a career track to raise a family. It’s not true in every case, of course, but many times it is.  And while changing priorities to raise a family a great thing, it also can mean that part of us is lost, or even just hidden for a time.

One woman I knew years ago was the picture of a graceful homemaker. She baked, she cleaned, she mentored and she was always there to help the older women out with driving, cooking, shopping or anything else.  Oh yes, and she cared for her own 5 children too. Her husband often worked late hours, so she was on her own for the most part. She did it all with grace and like this was what she had planned her life around.

One day though, her husband let me in on a little known fact about her. She had worked in marketing before having children, and she knew her stuff. I had been doing some event planning and knew absolutely nothing about promoting or advertising. He suggested that I ask her for some advice. I did, and I continue to follow her advice with any event or advertising I do now. I would never have had her as a resource in that area if her husband hadn’t filled me in.

Before I became a mom, I went to school for Archaeology, and then got a second degree in teaching.  I learned so much, but to look at me, you would never know that I spent 6 weeks in a tent on a dig site along with 15 guys (in their own tents!), or that I’ve studied 5 languages or that I prefer touching freshly found ancient bone to my tongue rather than my wet finger because it’s quicker (and then I don’t have to lick my finger, because who knows what’s on it?).

I’ve also worked several jobs that taught me even more.  I’ve been a photographer, I’ve flipped burgers, I’ve cleaned rooms. I’ve never really been a career-oriented person, but I’ve always found something to do.

I think it’s important for our kids to see those other sides of us too, and not just the “mom” side all of the time.

So what’s your alter ego?

What is it that you spend your time doing

(or are hoping to one day spend your time doing) other than parenting?

Article written by:

Megan is a WAHM to 3 (and then some) kids, who spends the majority of her time working as an Administrative Assistant, blogging and washing dishes. She loves to write about her adventures in parenting, running a home daycare, adoption and whatever else strikes her fancy!


  1. Jeannette

    Before I was a mom I worked in adult education helping people go back to school and get their degrees. I love to use that experience to help my kid’s friends parents and also show my kids that it’s never too late to chase their dreams!
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  2. Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle

    I think we all have an alter ego within us. I also think we tend to forget about it and what we were before we became moms.

  3. Christy Maurer

    My degree is in Psychology, but I didn’t go to get my master’s degree. I wanted to be a mom, and that is what I am 🙂 I changed my major a lot, and I was so flighty in college. I think being a mom suits me because I am best at loving my kids.
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  4. Robin (Masshole Mommy)

    It’s hard to believe that so many women I know started out in a profession well before they were mothers. Heck, just in the blogging community I know several who earned their degrees before becoming mom bloggers.

  5. Alli

    I’m on the other side of motherhood. All of my kids are grown. I was also their high school principal so we have lots of memories together.
    Go check out Alli’s latest post! Linda’s Sweet & Spicy Mango SalsaMy Profile

  6. Sandy KS

    I love to write and travel. I have passion for cooking, nature and animals. I would love to be able to combine these all in one job some day.
    Go check out Sandy KS’s latest post! BBQ Chicken in the CrockpotMy Profile

  7. Liz Mays

    I really got into blogging after my kids were off to college. I didn’t really realize how big the community of mom bloggers was until a few years ago!
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  8. Nina Say

    I don’t even remember what I did for fun before I was a mom. There is something vaguely hazy about all of that freedom.
    Go check out Nina Say’s latest post! 4 Tidbits of Advice for New Moms Looking to Get in ShapeMy Profile

  9. Maria

    My son has grown up with the knowledge of my passion for the performing arts. No matter what challenges we face, he sees that I have remained true to my passions, and he sees that makes me happy.

  10. Ourfamilyworld

    Before I was a mom I used to travel a lot because of work. My kids are big now and they know that.
    Go check out Ourfamilyworld’s latest post! Let’s Go to New Brunswick! #LetsGONBMy Profile

  11. Mistee Dawn

    So true! I was actually quite the athlete before kids, and was on an all-star softball team. I also studied journalism for 3 years.
    Go check out Mistee Dawn’s latest post! The grass isn’t always greener. #SwitchersRemorseMy Profile

  12. April @ Everyday Fitness and Nutrition

    I’m kind of on the other end of the mommy thing now that my kids are both adults. I’m starting to get a new identity now and it’s pretty awesome!

  13. Jesica H

    It is crazy how quickly we lose ourselves in parenting. I got asked a while back what my hobbies were, and I was embarrassed as I couldn’t think of anything!

  14. Alyssa C

    I love photography, but I usually get caught up in being a mom and forget to practice. I would love to take a few courses
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  15. Shaney Vijendranath

    Travel! I love travelling and now it’s extremely difficult especially since I’m pregnant again. I’d love to just travel and blog about it.
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  16. Uplifting Families

    I have worked odd and end jobs over the years too. I went to school to get my bachelor and associates degree in information technology. I got my degree as a full time accounting clerk and at the time I was a single mama of two. I started blogging as a hobby after a medical layoff. It has overflowed into more. I do show my kids what I do. I want them to see how me and my husband work. I want them to have a good work ethic. I’ve taught them how to do chores so that they are prepared adults that know how to manage a household.
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  17. Lynndee

    I have a degree in business management and I’ve worked as a telecommunicator and as a medical transcriptionist before I became a mom. I don’t think I will do those jobs again though. They require shifting in schedules which I don’t want to do now that I have a son. I enjoy being a WAHM and full-time mom now.
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  18. Michelle @ Dishes and Dust Bunnies

    Life changes so much when you become a mom! I remember the days before becoming a mom when I would get all dressed up and go to wild concerts and night clubs with my husband! lol
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  19. Chrystal | YUM eating

    I became a mom when I was working on my bachelors. I took 6 weeks off and went for my masters. I was on a mission after a divorce when I met kiddo’s dad. I had to do it for me, not anyone else. We’ve been together for 7 years. I worked from home the entire time, and still am. Although, I have to say, I feel the walls closing in on me. LOL I think its time to go back to work outside the home.
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  20. Rebecca Swenor

    This is a great post because most people would never figure out what we had done before motherhood. I was in the army/ army reserves as a Automatic Data Telecommunications Center Operator and had a top secret security clearance with sensitive info. Most people would never have thought I was that at one time. Thanks for sharing the blast from the past.

  21. Jamela Porter

    I was such a young mother (18) I barely remember not being a mom lol, when my son came over 16 years ago I was still a senior in high school.
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  22. Chubskulit Rose

    Before getting married, I work an office job in school but when I got pregnant, I chose to stay at home. It is important that our kids know what we did before we became a SAHM!
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  23. Jeanine

    My alter ego is a blogger living her dream writing, and blogging without a care in the world. Meanwhile, the mom in me is NEVER done with anything and always, always on a deadline and forgetting stuff lol

  24. Mimi "MimiCuteLips" Green

    I love this, I started blogging because I wanted an identity outside of being a Mom. So in essence MimiCuteLips is my alter ego. Oddly enough I do blog about the kids sometimes. lol
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  25. CourtneyLynne

    Traveling!!! Before I was mom I was all over the place! Never stopped traveling. Can’t really do that with a kid. We still travel, but not as much as I wish. One day I will reveal again 😉

  26. Tiffany

    Being a mom is what I’ve always wanted to be. I wanted to be a doctor and a mom, but when I figured out that wasn’t really feasible, I stuck with mom. 🙂
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  27. Erin

    Before I was a mom, I wanted to be a writer. And now I’m living that dream by blogging!
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  28. Stephanie

    I, like you, have many sides: my career started as a programmer and progressed to managing a team of implementation project managers. I gladly left it all to be a mom while my husband was deployed. Now, I’m a SAHM, artist and writer and I’ve never been happier!
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  29. Jessica Simms

    Not sure if I have an alter ego but I’ve done a lot with my life in the few 25 year’s I’ve been on earth. I once worked as a photo editor for models and a magazine (that didn’t last long). I also used to work 2 jobs while I was pregnant just to make ends meet. I’m an amazing barista because of it and have learned how to juggle taking an order and handing out food to customers at the same time without mixing anything up. I also once aspired to be a singer and can actually carry a tune lol.
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  30. ricci

    I’m not a Mom but several of my friends are and I see them sort of going through this….they are Moms but at the same time they are gorgeous, strong women who are super smart!! I love my Mom friends.
    Go check out ricci’s latest post! Monday MusingsMy Profile

  31. desirae young

    Before I was a mom, I thought I had my life together LOL! Who knew how much times have changed. I have laundry out of my ears and I never thought I would LOL!
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  32. Rosey

    I laughed about the bone. Especially when you noted, ‘who knows where your finger’s been.’ LOL

  33. Carin Kilby Clark

    Oh man… before I was a mom was over 18 years ago. I was just 17/18 myself so I honestly don’t have a pre-mom identity. BUT, I’ve got plenty of life that belongs just to me. It just didn’t exist pre-mom life.
    Go check out Carin Kilby Clark’s latest post! How I Developed a Wealth Mindset in 5 Easy StepsMy Profile

  34. HilLesha

    How exciting! It was once my dream to be an archaeologist. Even though I didn’t strive to make that dream to become a reality, I still love to watch movies and read about archaeology in my spare time.
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  35. Joanne T Ferguson

    I think many people think just because they become a mum, they change in every way! There is always the same person inside, but who may be challenged by time, time management! I think it is important to maintain things that people used to be before they were a mum!

  36. Peachy @ The Peach Kitchen

    I love being a mom and I don’t think I’ll go back to my alter ego.
    Go check out Peachy @ The Peach Kitchen’s latest post! Adobong Manok Sa Gata (Chicken Adobo in Coconut Milk)My Profile

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