It seems like eons ago, but once upon a time, I had an identity all my own. One that didn’t come with a toddler clinging to my leg or a baby on my hip.


I find it so interesting to hear about the education and jobs that women had before becoming stay-at-home or work-from-home moms. Most of the time, we are the ones to take the hit when it comes to setting aside a career track to raise a family. It’s not true in every case, of course, but many times it is.  And while changing priorities to raise a family a great thing, it also can mean that part of us is lost, or even just hidden for a time.

One woman I knew years ago was the picture of a graceful homemaker. She baked, she cleaned, she mentored and she was always there to help the older women out with driving, cooking, shopping or anything else.  Oh yes, and she cared for her own 5 children too. Her husband often worked late hours, so she was on her own for the most part. She did it all with grace and like this was what she had planned her life around.

One day though, her husband let me in on a little known fact about her. She had worked in marketing before having children, and she knew her stuff. I had been doing some event planning and knew absolutely nothing about promoting or advertising. He suggested that I ask her for some advice. I did, and I continue to follow her advice with any event or advertising I do now. I would never have had her as a resource in that area if her husband hadn’t filled me in.

Before I became a mom, I went to school for Archaeology, and then got a second degree in teaching.  I learned so much, but to look at me, you would never know that I spent 6 weeks in a tent on a dig site along with 15 guys (in their own tents!), or that I’ve studied 5 languages or that I prefer touching freshly found ancient bone to my tongue rather than my wet finger because it’s quicker (and then I don’t have to lick my finger, because who knows what’s on it?).

I’ve also worked several jobs that taught me even more.  I’ve been a photographer, I’ve flipped burgers, I’ve cleaned rooms. I’ve never really been a career-oriented person, but I’ve always found something to do.

I think it’s important for our kids to see those other sides of us too, and not just the “mom” side all of the time.

So what’s your alter ego?

What is it that you spend your time doing

(or are hoping to one day spend your time doing) other than parenting?

36 thoughts on “Before I Was A Mom …

  1. My degree is in Psychology, but I didn’t go to get my master’s degree. I wanted to be a mom, and that is what I am 🙂 I changed my major a lot, and I was so flighty in college. I think being a mom suits me because I am best at loving my kids.
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  2. It’s hard to believe that so many women I know started out in a profession well before they were mothers. Heck, just in the blogging community I know several who earned their degrees before becoming mom bloggers.

  3. My son has grown up with the knowledge of my passion for the performing arts. No matter what challenges we face, he sees that I have remained true to my passions, and he sees that makes me happy.

  4. It is crazy how quickly we lose ourselves in parenting. I got asked a while back what my hobbies were, and I was embarrassed as I couldn’t think of anything!

  5. I have worked odd and end jobs over the years too. I went to school to get my bachelor and associates degree in information technology. I got my degree as a full time accounting clerk and at the time I was a single mama of two. I started blogging as a hobby after a medical layoff. It has overflowed into more. I do show my kids what I do. I want them to see how me and my husband work. I want them to have a good work ethic. I’ve taught them how to do chores so that they are prepared adults that know how to manage a household.
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  6. I have a degree in business management and I’ve worked as a telecommunicator and as a medical transcriptionist before I became a mom. I don’t think I will do those jobs again though. They require shifting in schedules which I don’t want to do now that I have a son. I enjoy being a WAHM and full-time mom now.
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  7. I became a mom when I was working on my bachelors. I took 6 weeks off and went for my masters. I was on a mission after a divorce when I met kiddo’s dad. I had to do it for me, not anyone else. We’ve been together for 7 years. I worked from home the entire time, and still am. Although, I have to say, I feel the walls closing in on me. LOL I think its time to go back to work outside the home.
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  8. This is a great post because most people would never figure out what we had done before motherhood. I was in the army/ army reserves as a Automatic Data Telecommunications Center Operator and had a top secret security clearance with sensitive info. Most people would never have thought I was that at one time. Thanks for sharing the blast from the past.

  9. My alter ego is a blogger living her dream writing, and blogging without a care in the world. Meanwhile, the mom in me is NEVER done with anything and always, always on a deadline and forgetting stuff lol

  10. Traveling!!! Before I was mom I was all over the place! Never stopped traveling. Can’t really do that with a kid. We still travel, but not as much as I wish. One day I will reveal again 😉

  11. I, like you, have many sides: my career started as a programmer and progressed to managing a team of implementation project managers. I gladly left it all to be a mom while my husband was deployed. Now, I’m a SAHM, artist and writer and I’ve never been happier!
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  12. Not sure if I have an alter ego but I’ve done a lot with my life in the few 25 year’s I’ve been on earth. I once worked as a photo editor for models and a magazine (that didn’t last long). I also used to work 2 jobs while I was pregnant just to make ends meet. I’m an amazing barista because of it and have learned how to juggle taking an order and handing out food to customers at the same time without mixing anything up. I also once aspired to be a singer and can actually carry a tune lol.
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  13. I’m not a Mom but several of my friends are and I see them sort of going through this….they are Moms but at the same time they are gorgeous, strong women who are super smart!! I love my Mom friends.
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  14. I laughed about the bone. Especially when you noted, ‘who knows where your finger’s been.’ LOL

  15. I think many people think just because they become a mum, they change in every way! There is always the same person inside, but who may be challenged by time, time management! I think it is important to maintain things that people used to be before they were a mum!

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