The other day, husband and I were talking about renewing our vows. Probably not in the way that most people would. Although I would love to have a do-over for our wedding.
It was an amazing day — all of the people we loved the most were there and it was a magical day. It was just very … low budget. Final expenditures? $2000. Yep, that’s it. So it didn’t allow much room for professional photographers, caterers without BBQ aprons, or expensive bridal party gifts (sorry about that, guys!).
So a do-over would be wonderful. With live flowers and drinks that didn’t come out of a 2 liter plastic bottle. Maybe on our 25th or 30th anniversary.
But for now, we’ve been married 17 years, and we thought we should renew our vows. Or rather, rewrite our vows, to more accurately reflect our current relationship.
During our wedding, we used traditional vows:
I, _______ , take youto be my husband/wife,
to have and to hold from this day forward,
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
till death us do part,
according to God’s holy law,
in the presence of God I make this vow.
It was absolutely beautiful, and so completely …. unrealistic.
What would our vows be like today, 17 years, 3 kids, 10 moves, and many ups and downs later?
Probably something more like this:
I take you to be my husband,
to have and to lean on from this day forward,
whether we’re happy or can’t stand each other,
whether we have tons of money, or whether we’re eating Kraft Dinner,
through dirty diapers and stinky feets and leaky water tanks and crazy neighbours,
through midnight feedings and hectic weekends and attention-stealing children,
through differences of opinion about money, housework, kids and committments,
through gravity and gray hair and wrinkles and extra desserts,
through puke buckets and laundry and Play-Doh-encrusted carpets,
through business trips and overtime and midnight call-outs;
to love and to cherish til death do us part,
according to God’s Holy Law.
In the presence of God I make this vow.
But if we were to really renew our vows, we’d make sure that nobody eats half-cooked eggs for breakfast right before the ceremony ;-).
Megan is a WAHM to 3 (and then some) kids, who spends the majority of her time working as an Administrative Assistant, blogging and washing dishes. She loves to write about her adventures in parenting, running a home daycare, adoption and whatever else strikes her fancy!